5 Ways to Get Through a Bad Day

In an ideal world we would only get to do things that bring us joy.  We would be able to simply float through life with not a care in the world.  No bills to pay, no worries, no annoying people.

Sounds amazing right?

Well, sadly, it’s not always as easy as that.

 

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Sometimes, there are days when you just have to suck it up and get on with it. Does that mean the whole day in question is a write off?  Not necessarily.  Walk away from the idiot that has upset you; finish the task that you would rather not be doing; shut yourself away and have a little cry.  Whatever it takes to brush it off and keep going.

Sometimes you may know you are going to encounter a negative situation, so how can you prepare yourself for the inevitable?

What steps can you take to protect yourself from all the less than desirable tasks, people and situations?

Meditation: Over the last few months I have come to enjoy, and rely on, meditation more and more.  Believe me when I say, even a year ago, I would have laughed if anyone had suggested meditation as a method of relaxation.  I would have told you how it couldn’t possibly work, and even if it did work for ‘other people’ it wouldn’t work for me.  However, I am here to tell you that meditation is really pretty awesome. There really is no wrong way to do it, and there are tonnes of resources out there for anyone that prefers guided mediation. I particularly like the Calm app (this one – there are a few with similar names), which offers sleep stories (yes a bedtime story, embrace your inner child), and guided meditation.

If done in the morning, before an important event, or even when you know you’re going to see someone that rubs you up the wrong way, meditation will leave you feeling calm and ready for anything.

A Good Night’s Sleep: It is not an understatement to say that being tired is torture.  Lack of sleep can leave you feeling grumpy and yucky, and makes everything seem magnified. When I have been seriously sleep-deprived (usually tiny baby related), life suddenly becomes one long drama.  I can remember crying over the most ridiculous things, and feeling way more sensitive than usual. If you are having an already sucky day, being tired is going to make it feel 1 million times worse.

Since I started regularly mediating before bed, I have been sleeping better than ever before.  Despite being woken often by my youngest two (apparently they hate me), I still wake feeling relatively refreshed.  I also find it much easier to fall asleep, even after being woken.

Visualisation: Have an important meeting coming up?  Take some time over the days running up to it to quiet your mind, and imagine how you want things to go. Really immerse yourself in the feelings that come with a positive outcome. Picture the meeting in as much detail as you can, and visualise everything running smoothly, and you being the most fabulous person in the room.  You would be surprised how much of an impact this will have on your mental state.  It will leave you feeling confident and more able to achieve your goals.

Have Something to Look forward to: Know you’re going to have a shocker of a week? Or perhaps you can tell as soon as it starts going south. Get your best friends on the phone, and plan a big night out with the girls when it’s all over.  That way, every time you start to feel the stress creep in, you can drift off into Friday Night Land and escape reality.

And finally….

Don’t Take it to Heart:  Some people are just plain nasty.  It’s them, not you. Feel compassion for their miserable little life, and keep rocking yours. In the words of Taylor Swift, shake it off‘.

 

 

What about when it is unexpected though, how can you possibly prepare?  Well, this is when regular mediation or prayer can become your best friend.  Because if you are constantly in a state of relaxation and calm, then you will be able to take all the poop that life throws at you.

You can’t change the way other people treat you – only how you react to it.

 

 

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Be a Total Badass Right Now

Until last year I had never picked up a self-help book in my life.  I thought I could do it all myself, I thought it was weak to ask for help, and I didn’t think there was any merit in meditating and all that ‘hippy stuff’.

 

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Then, in the middle of 2016 I had, what can only be described as, a crisis of confidence.  It suddenly dawned on me that I was in my thirties and didn’t have any sort of career path (apparently I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer either – I’ve never had any sort of career path), and although I knew what I wanted to do, I didn’t know how to achieve it.

I wrote a series of self-pitying blog posts – some of which I published if you want a laugh – and generally moped around. I can’t really remember how I came across You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, but I suspect it was some sort of divine intervention.  Anyway, I thought it looked interesting and ordered a copy along with a couple of other books that Amazon told me I needed.

And so began my journey of self-discovery (ugh, cheesy I know).  I devoured You Are A Badass, finishing it within a couple of days (hey, that’s an achievement with four children who like to inform me of every thought that enters their heads).  Jen Sincero’s style of writing won’t be for everyone, but if you like your advice to be straight to the point then you will love it.

 

 

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You Are A Badass will take you from directionless to directioned (is that even a word? Professor Google says no).  For me, the biggest revelation was related to money and work. Growing up, we always had enough, but were far from rich.  The feeling I always had, was that ‘people like us’ just were not destined to be rich or successful.  Work isn’t meant to be fun, and you just do what it takes to support your family.

…Badass helped me to see that, actually, this is the wrong attitude to have.  Just because I came from a working class background, doesn’t mean that my path is pre-determined.

It’s not just about money though, my whole attitude to life was changed after reading this wonderful yellow book. I started to feel motivated and invigorated for the first time, probably, ever.  I wanted to get out there and get started on my fabulous new life as soon as I possibly could.

For instance, I never thought I could do a job that I would actually enjoy (ok, this is also linked to money. Maybe I have a one-track mind), but I am starting to believe that it may be a possibility. This is just the tip of the iceberg though, I can’t stress enough how different I felt after reading this book.  I know I’m not the only one either; I constantly see …Badass being recommended whenever the topic comes up in Facebook groups and the like.

Among many other life lessons, …Badass also helped to hammer home that other people being ugly (inside) has nothing to do with me. This is a work in progress, as I have the habit of over-analysing every little thing that people say and do around me. However, I have got a LOT better at letting things wash over me, and just living my life, without worrying so much what other people are doing with theirs.

Live in the moment to fully appreciate life, you only get one after all. I certainly don’t want to be on my deathbed worrying about whether the nurses are talking about me behind my back.

 

“There’s nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of f***- yeah” – Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass

 

I highly recommend you get on the Badass Train right now.  Go buy it herewhile I just pop off and work my way through Jen’s recommended reading list.  You can thank me later.

 

 

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