In an ideal world we would only get to do things that bring us joy. We would be able to simply float through life with not a care in the world. No bills to pay, no worries, no annoying people.
Sounds amazing right?
Well, sadly, it’s not always as easy as that.
Sometimes, there are days when you just have to suck it up and get on with it. Does that mean the whole day in question is a write off? Not necessarily. Walk away from the idiot that has upset you; finish the task that you would rather not be doing; shut yourself away and have a little cry. Whatever it takes to brush it off and keep going.
Sometimes you may know you are going to encounter a negative situation, so how can you prepare yourself for the inevitable?
What steps can you take to protect yourself from all the less than desirable tasks, people and situations?
Meditation: Over the last few months I have come to enjoy, and rely on, meditation more and more. Believe me when I say, even a year ago, I would have laughed if anyone had suggested meditation as a method of relaxation. I would have told you how it couldn’t possibly work, and even if it did work for ‘other people’ it wouldn’t work for me. However, I am here to tell you that meditation is really pretty awesome. There really is no wrong way to do it, and there are tonnes of resources out there for anyone that prefers guided mediation. I particularly like the Calm app (this one – there are a few with similar names), which offers sleep stories (yes a bedtime story, embrace your inner child), and guided meditation.
If done in the morning, before an important event, or even when you know you’re going to see someone that rubs you up the wrong way, meditation will leave you feeling calm and ready for anything.
A Good Night’s Sleep: It is not an understatement to say that being tired is torture. Lack of sleep can leave you feeling grumpy and yucky, and makes everything seem magnified. When I have been seriously sleep-deprived (usually tiny baby related), life suddenly becomes one long drama. I can remember crying over the most ridiculous things, and feeling way more sensitive than usual. If you are having an already sucky day, being tired is going to make it feel 1 million times worse.
Since I started regularly mediating before bed, I have been sleeping better than ever before. Despite being woken often by my youngest two (apparently they hate me), I still wake feeling relatively refreshed. I also find it much easier to fall asleep, even after being woken.
Visualisation: Have an important meeting coming up? Take some time over the days running up to it to quiet your mind, and imagine how you want things to go. Really immerse yourself in the feelings that come with a positive outcome. Picture the meeting in as much detail as you can, and visualise everything running smoothly, and you being the most fabulous person in the room. You would be surprised how much of an impact this will have on your mental state. It will leave you feeling confident and more able to achieve your goals.
Have Something to Look forward to: Know you’re going to have a shocker of a week? Or perhaps you can tell as soon as it starts going south. Get your best friends on the phone, and plan a big night out with the girls when it’s all over. That way, every time you start to feel the stress creep in, you can drift off into Friday Night Land and escape reality.
Don’t Take it to Heart: Some people are just plain nasty. It’s them, not you. Feel compassion for their miserable little life, and keep rocking yours. In the words of Taylor Swift, shake it off‘.
What about when it is unexpected though, how can you possibly prepare? Well, this is when regular mediation or prayer can become your best friend. Because if you are constantly in a state of relaxation and calm, then you will be able to take all the poop that life throws at you.
You can’t change the way other people treat you – only how you react to it.
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