5 Ways to Get Through a Bad Day

In an ideal world we would only get to do things that bring us joy.  We would be able to simply float through life with not a care in the world.  No bills to pay, no worries, no annoying people.

Sounds amazing right?

Well, sadly, it’s not always as easy as that.

 

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Sometimes, there are days when you just have to suck it up and get on with it. Does that mean the whole day in question is a write off?  Not necessarily.  Walk away from the idiot that has upset you; finish the task that you would rather not be doing; shut yourself away and have a little cry.  Whatever it takes to brush it off and keep going.

Sometimes you may know you are going to encounter a negative situation, so how can you prepare yourself for the inevitable?

What steps can you take to protect yourself from all the less than desirable tasks, people and situations?

Meditation: Over the last few months I have come to enjoy, and rely on, meditation more and more.  Believe me when I say, even a year ago, I would have laughed if anyone had suggested meditation as a method of relaxation.  I would have told you how it couldn’t possibly work, and even if it did work for ‘other people’ it wouldn’t work for me.  However, I am here to tell you that meditation is really pretty awesome. There really is no wrong way to do it, and there are tonnes of resources out there for anyone that prefers guided mediation. I particularly like the Calm app (this one – there are a few with similar names), which offers sleep stories (yes a bedtime story, embrace your inner child), and guided meditation.

If done in the morning, before an important event, or even when you know you’re going to see someone that rubs you up the wrong way, meditation will leave you feeling calm and ready for anything.

A Good Night’s Sleep: It is not an understatement to say that being tired is torture.  Lack of sleep can leave you feeling grumpy and yucky, and makes everything seem magnified. When I have been seriously sleep-deprived (usually tiny baby related), life suddenly becomes one long drama.  I can remember crying over the most ridiculous things, and feeling way more sensitive than usual. If you are having an already sucky day, being tired is going to make it feel 1 million times worse.

Since I started regularly mediating before bed, I have been sleeping better than ever before.  Despite being woken often by my youngest two (apparently they hate me), I still wake feeling relatively refreshed.  I also find it much easier to fall asleep, even after being woken.

Visualisation: Have an important meeting coming up?  Take some time over the days running up to it to quiet your mind, and imagine how you want things to go. Really immerse yourself in the feelings that come with a positive outcome. Picture the meeting in as much detail as you can, and visualise everything running smoothly, and you being the most fabulous person in the room.  You would be surprised how much of an impact this will have on your mental state.  It will leave you feeling confident and more able to achieve your goals.

Have Something to Look forward to: Know you’re going to have a shocker of a week? Or perhaps you can tell as soon as it starts going south. Get your best friends on the phone, and plan a big night out with the girls when it’s all over.  That way, every time you start to feel the stress creep in, you can drift off into Friday Night Land and escape reality.

And finally….

Don’t Take it to Heart:  Some people are just plain nasty.  It’s them, not you. Feel compassion for their miserable little life, and keep rocking yours. In the words of Taylor Swift, shake it off‘.

 

 

What about when it is unexpected though, how can you possibly prepare?  Well, this is when regular mediation or prayer can become your best friend.  Because if you are constantly in a state of relaxation and calm, then you will be able to take all the poop that life throws at you.

You can’t change the way other people treat you – only how you react to it.

 

 

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Be a Total Badass Right Now

Until last year I had never picked up a self-help book in my life.  I thought I could do it all myself, I thought it was weak to ask for help, and I didn’t think there was any merit in meditating and all that ‘hippy stuff’.

 

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Then, in the middle of 2016 I had, what can only be described as, a crisis of confidence.  It suddenly dawned on me that I was in my thirties and didn’t have any sort of career path (apparently I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer either – I’ve never had any sort of career path), and although I knew what I wanted to do, I didn’t know how to achieve it.

I wrote a series of self-pitying blog posts – some of which I published if you want a laugh – and generally moped around. I can’t really remember how I came across You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, but I suspect it was some sort of divine intervention.  Anyway, I thought it looked interesting and ordered a copy along with a couple of other books that Amazon told me I needed.

And so began my journey of self-discovery (ugh, cheesy I know).  I devoured You Are A Badass, finishing it within a couple of days (hey, that’s an achievement with four children who like to inform me of every thought that enters their heads).  Jen Sincero’s style of writing won’t be for everyone, but if you like your advice to be straight to the point then you will love it.

 

 

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You Are A Badass will take you from directionless to directioned (is that even a word? Professor Google says no).  For me, the biggest revelation was related to money and work. Growing up, we always had enough, but were far from rich.  The feeling I always had, was that ‘people like us’ just were not destined to be rich or successful.  Work isn’t meant to be fun, and you just do what it takes to support your family.

…Badass helped me to see that, actually, this is the wrong attitude to have.  Just because I came from a working class background, doesn’t mean that my path is pre-determined.

It’s not just about money though, my whole attitude to life was changed after reading this wonderful yellow book. I started to feel motivated and invigorated for the first time, probably, ever.  I wanted to get out there and get started on my fabulous new life as soon as I possibly could.

For instance, I never thought I could do a job that I would actually enjoy (ok, this is also linked to money. Maybe I have a one-track mind), but I am starting to believe that it may be a possibility. This is just the tip of the iceberg though, I can’t stress enough how different I felt after reading this book.  I know I’m not the only one either; I constantly see …Badass being recommended whenever the topic comes up in Facebook groups and the like.

Among many other life lessons, …Badass also helped to hammer home that other people being ugly (inside) has nothing to do with me. This is a work in progress, as I have the habit of over-analysing every little thing that people say and do around me. However, I have got a LOT better at letting things wash over me, and just living my life, without worrying so much what other people are doing with theirs.

Live in the moment to fully appreciate life, you only get one after all. I certainly don’t want to be on my deathbed worrying about whether the nurses are talking about me behind my back.

 

“There’s nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of f***- yeah” – Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass

 

I highly recommend you get on the Badass Train right now.  Go buy it herewhile I just pop off and work my way through Jen’s recommended reading list.  You can thank me later.

 

 

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Early Impressions (and one long-term-love) – Skincare for Dry Skin

I have been majorly into skincare this winter. I wanted to try and make improvements so that I didn’t need to rely on make-up to look human.

I’m not getting any younger, sadly, and  make-up can only do so much. If the skin underneath the layers is dry, dull and cracked then my face is never going to look its best.  I mentioned some treatments and masks recently (read about that here), but I also wanted to tell you about my top regular skincare choices.

 

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I have used Liz Earle on and off for many years, but a few months ago went back to using the Liz Earle Skin Repair Moisturiser for Dry/Sensitive skin as my nighttime moisturiser.  I can’t really say enough nice things about this little pot of gorgeousness.  The smell leaves a lot to be desired, but you can’t win them all, right?  The scent doesn’t linger though, so it’s a small price to pay for super soft and hydrated skin.  If your skin is even more dry than mine, then you could certainly use the Skin Repair Moisturiser in the morning (they do have a lighter version that I also happen to love).  Despite the dryness of my skin, I really hate that heavy greasy feeling that some moisturisers aimed at dry skin can leave behind.  This one doesn’t have that, and sinks in pleasantly quickly, and doesn’t leave a yucky film on my face.

 

For daytime, I have been using the Lancome Hydra Zen Anti-Stress Moisturising Cream (there’s a mouthful).  There are many moisturisers in this range, but I went for the Anti-Stress option, because sometimes my skin can be sensitive, and a little angry.  I have only been using this in the morning for the last few weeks, so I suppose I can’t say I have fully tested it.  I do think you know fairly early on whether skincare is going to be a total waste of money, though, and this one is not that. For me, it delivers the perfect amount of hydration, and also contains SPF 15 for that all-important sun protection.  I love that it leaves my skin moisturised, and not slimy, and brightens and calms.

I don’t entirely love the texture (it’s a bit, well, gritty), or the tub.  In fact, this applies to the Liz Earle cream too.  Pots seem so unsanitary to me.  My hands are always clean, but I can’t help but think about bacteria getting in there and spoiling my expensive face creams. However, on the plus side, my penny-pinching side loves that I can get every last drop out of them.

With regards to the odd texture of the Lancome moisturiser, it doesn’t stay on the skin, the little bits do disappear as it’s rubbed in, but it does make it feel slightly less luxurious on the skin,

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When I need that little bit of extra hydration, and don’t feel like doing my Michael Myers impression with a sheet mask, I adore the Origins Drink Up 10 Minute Mask.  I don’t use this as a mask, but just as an intense moisturiser.  It smells divine (fruity and yummy) and is silky soft to apply.  It does leave skin a little slippery, but I can cope with that if it’s only once a week.  I usually apply it early in the evening and then slump in front of Netflix for a couple of hours before bed.  That way it has sunk in before I go to bed, meaning there is no mess on my pillow. Again, I have been using this for just a few weeks, but I do love the feeling of plumpness when I wake in the morning after using it.  While I know nothing is going to turn back the clock, I intend to keep my skin looking young for as long as humanly possible.

 

So, these are the products that I love, but what about you? What are your favourite skin saviours? Let me know in the comments, maybe I will find a new wonder product!

 

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Worrying? That’s So Last Year!

I don’t like making resolutions; they don’t stick (with me anyway), and why wait until January to make a change? This year, however, I have made one. I have decided to become worry-free.

 

 

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This is not something that comes naturally to me. Worry has been my constant companion for my whole life. Do you know whose middle name is Worry? Me, that’s who.

As long as I can remember I have been a mildly anxious person (I hesitate to use that word, because my anxiety is the old-fashioned kind; not debilitating, just annoying).  As a child – as my mum will attest to – I was the one nervously biting my nails in the car on the first day of term.  Not because I was worried about the first day back, but because I was terrified that we had made a mistake and it really wasn’t the first day back at all. ‘What if everyone else came back yesterday, and I’ve missed a day?’

Is that weird? The same with non-uniform day, my stomach would be in knots, until I caught a glimpse of a classmate sans uniform.  I’m pretty sure that’s a normal worry though. Right?

 

As an adult, things haven’t been much better to be honest.  I have worried my way through new jobs; new experiences; pregnancies; meeting new people; old jobs I don’t like anymore; not having enough money; and less frequently, having enough money (in case it disappears)…. You name it, I’ve worried about it.

 

But NO MORE! As of 2017, worry is going in the recycling bin.  It’s going to come out as happiness and contentment.

 

My reasoning behind being a big fat worrier, is that if I worry about it (and expect the worst) then I won’t be disappointed when the worst happens.  But NEWSFLASH, this is extremely flawed logic.

 

Over the last 13 years I have been pregnant six times, and have four children.  You could argue that my anxiety during those pregnancies was justified, but did it do any good? Heck no.

 

 

“What’s comin’ will come, 

an’ we’ll meet it when it does” – Hagrid

 

My final pregnancy was by far the most stressful, after suffering a late miscarriage the year previously.  So I worried.  Oh, I worried like never before.  Thankfully my daughter was born happy and healthy in 2014 (albeit back to back – awkward child that she is).

One thing I am certain of – my worrying did not create this gorgeous little being.  In fact, she is the most nervous and anxious of them all.  I would go as far as to say that my high stress levels during the pregnancy caused her to be a nervous child.  Me worrying about that would be pointless though.  I owe it to her (and my other children) to be a calm and rational role model.

 

The thing about worrying is that it doesn’t stop bad days happening, it just ruins the good days. And where’s the fun in that?

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Being Grateful


Have you ever said ‘I’m just having one of those days’? Doesn’t it start to feel like every day is one of those days after a while?  The negative feelings and interactions with other people snowball until you are one big ball of frustration and irritation.  Life seems like an uphill struggle, and insecurities and anxious feelings are at their highest.

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Leading up the summer of 2016 my life was a little bit… let’s say bumpy.  My mind was all over the place, I couldn’t decide what I wanted to do with myself, and I was feeling uninspired.  I announced several times to my husband and family that I had decided on a new career path, only to dismiss it a few days later.  I honestly thought I was having a pre-midlife crisis (…possibly midlife.  Eeek, am I that old already?)

It was an unusual time.

I started reading all the self-help books I could get my hands on (some better than others).  I gravitated towards motivational speakers on Youtube, rather than my usual beauty ‘gurus’, and I started to move away from beauty blogs and magazines, and towards stories of inspirational people.

I would wake up feeling apathetic at best, and downright miserable at worst. I wouldn’t describe it as clinical depression, more misery and low mood.

But then one day it all fell into place with a thud.  The way I was feeling was because of me. It was the way I was reacting to situations that was making me feel so rubbish.   I was in charge of my life – no one else.

 

I started to work on being grateful for what I do have, instead of grumbling about what I don’t have.

 

Doing this has had a greater impact on my life than I ever would have imagined.

 

Gratitude, giving thanks, feeling blessed, whatever you want to call it is essential to my own mental well-being, and I would bet that if you are feeling low it would help you too.

Which feels better? Noticing the things that are missing from your life, or noticing the positive aspects?  I know what feels better to me.

I’ve tried both approaches extensively, and have come to the conclusion that life is better when I make a point of finding the good and ignoring the bad.

For the most part now I feel like I have moved on to a better place. Doing so has been a journey, and is still ongoing.  One of the biggest changes that has come about in my thinking, is feeling grateful for the things that are going well, and taking the time to appreciate the good.

It is also something that needs to be kept in check every day.  Feeling happy and grateful one day a month doesn’t really cut it.  I start and end each day with lying in bed remembering all the people and things (yes, things, it’s not evil and materialistic to be grateful for things) that I am blessed with.

My children; my marriage;  my parents and extended family; our health.  A roof over our heads; money to buy food; cars to make life easier; gadgets to keep us busy and entertained; music; movies; The Walking Dead (I’m kidding about that one – kind of). Education; freedom; books.  I really could go on all day.

Even those that feel that nothing goes their way can find something to be grateful for each day.  It’s the quickest way to feeling uplifted, I guarantee it.

 

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Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

I don’t know what it is about the way life is currently, but why is it so frowned upon to do nothing?  Why do we have to be so gosh darned productive all the time?

Everyone seems to be writing listicles about how to be more productive, or how to get more done, or how to squeeze more tasks into an already crowded day.

 

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With more and more people working for themselves, and trying to be successful in a shorter amount of time, I fear it’s only going to get worse.

After Christmas I felt pretty exhausted (as I’m sure a lot of people did).  January is a notoriously blue month. Money is low, we feel a bit fat, we haven’t stopped for what feels like weeks and we just generally feel bleugh.

So take it easy, yes?

Nope. We still want to get back to it.  To work; to blogging; to life, all at full force.

Personally, I am excellent at doing not very much.  What I’m not very good at is enjoying it.  If I have a day where I don’t tick off all – or most – of my to-do list then I feel like a failure. And I’m not really a perfectionist, or particularly ambitious, so I can’t imagine how other more motivated people must feel.

My husband was working from home a couple of days ago, and I was sitting at my computer not doing what I should have been doing (making some money), and was instead doing what I definitely should not have been doing (trying my hardest to spend some money).  I caught myself, and mentioned to my husband that I had been doing nothing, when I should have been doing something useful.

He was pretty shocked that I was being so hard on myself, and told me in not so many words that I should give myself a break, and, well, take a break.  And more importantly not to feel bad about it.

 

Well, that’s easier said than done, my friend.

I am honestly trying though, and while that guilt will probably never entirely go away, I am trying not to be SO hard on myself.  Trying to take some ‘me’ time, and making the most of it.  Not beating myself up for sitting on my butt for an hour or so, and actually just stopping every now and again.

Do you know what makes you more productive? Being less productive sometimes. Resting, and recharging your batteries, that’s what.  What is the point in running yourself into the ground, making yourself ill and then being forced to take time off?  I think in 2017, we should all just slow down a bit.  Stop rushing; get some fresh air; talk to a stranger; do something out of the normal routine.  Even just for five minutes.

But do it deliberately and enjoy it.  Easy right?

 

So, when I say ‘don’t be so hard on yourself’ I’m talking to myself too.

 

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Things I Love Right now

It has been so long since I shared any favourite products that I decided I would put together a little post about my current can’t-be-withouts.

 

I haven’t really bought any new make-up over the last few months, and instead I have been concentrating on my skin.  The cold weather really makes my skin even more dry than usual (think tight, cracked and flakey. Nice).  So, top of my pamper list has been hydrating masks and rich moisturisers.

 

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After a long break (sorry Liz), I have returned to an old favourite of mine; Liz Earle skincare.  I first used the Liz Earle range about 10 years ago, and then allowed myself to be lured away by other brands.  I came back though, and that’s what counts, right?

I am particularly loving the Instant Boost Skin Tonic; a gorgeous floral scented, refreshing toner that is just what my skin needs first thing in the morning.  I have decanted some into a small spray bottle, and I love to spritz my skin with it after cleansing and before moisturising.  In the summer it is particularly divine as a refreshing boost throughout the day, but it’s lush in the winter too.

 

When I need a treat, I adore the When 10pm Bio-Cellulose Anti-Aging Sheet Mask. It never hurts to anti-age, and sheet masks are my favourite type of masks. This Anti-Aging mask makes my skin feel softer than soft, and super hydrated.  The results last for a few days too. When have a whole range of masks (here), and being priced at £7 they aren’t for everyday use (well, not for me anyway), however, they are fab for a weekly pamper session.

 

My collection of concealers is – quite honestly – disgraceful.  I am ashamed to admit that I have a whole drawer full. I have searched and searched (and searched) for a concealer that will cover my dark circles (impossible), not create lines under my eyes, and not leave me looking dry and cakey (achievable, but difficult).  The Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Eraser is really very good.  I have two shades, and this is the Brightening and Illuminating version. I had to buy it from Amazon.com, and it was shipped from America as far as I can remember.  I did find it in the UK now though, (here) albeit at an inflated price.  This particular shade is quite pink, and reminds me of the YSL Touche Eclat.  It doesn’t have the best coverage for people who resemble pandas (me), but it isn’t even remotely drying and it does brighten up the under eye area nicely.

I could write a book about my concealer struggle, but on days when I just want to look healthy, brighter and hydrated, then the Maybelline Age Rewind concealer is perfect.

 

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Last up is an eyeshadow palette.  I was so excited about this palette when it launched last year. I ordered it as soon as it became available and couldn’t wait to try it out.  I hesitated about including it here, because it was limited edition.  But I love it so much that I just had to write about it.

I know packaging shouldn’t be a consideration when buying make-up, but I could not resist this beautiful box. The shadows are lovely too, with a good mix of shimmer, satin and matte shadows.  I particularly like Paradox for the eye lid.  It looks a bit daunting in the pan, but it is actually just orange enough, and is more subtle on the skin than it looks like it will be.  This palette is one of the items in my make-up collection that just makes me happy when I bring it out.  And that’s what make-up should be in my opinion; fun, and a distraction from the crazy people in the news every day.

 

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Want to Make Loadsa Money in 2017?

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Do you want to make some extra money each week?  Well, duh, of course you do! What a coincidence,  because I have written a basic guide to Matched Betting, and how it can make you several hundred pounds a month.

 

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So, Tell Me,What Is Matched Betting?

Matched Betting was something that I first heard about at the beginning of 2016.  It sounded like a fantastic way to make some extra money, but I was extremely hesitant to give it a try initially.  However, with Christmas coming up and four children, I decided that I would give it a go, and I honestly haven’t looked back since.

Matched Betting is a totally legal and risk-free method of betting, using free bet offers from bookies (e.g. Bet £50, get a £50 free bet)

How Does It Work?

Very briefly, the idea behind Matched Betting is that you take advantage of free bets that bookies regularly offer.  There are usually two stages to each bet. Firstly, you would place a qualifying bet with the bookie, then, when that meets the criteria, (minimum bet, minimum odds etc) the bookie will give a free bet.

In order to make money from it, you must be sure to ‘match’ the bets on an exchange site (like Betfair).  So, for example, you would bet on Liverpool to win on the bookie site, and bet against them winning on a betting exchange. You will then make a profit from this process.

Matched Betting is legal, and all money made is tax free.  Bonus!

 

Quick, Give Me An Example!

Let’s take Ladbrokes as an example. They will give all new customers a deposit match up to £50.  So, we deposit £50 and then hop over to Profit Accumulator to check out current odds, and to use their calculator.  We need to find a bet that has close odds on  Ladbrokes and the exchange.  The minimum odds for this particular offer (at the time of writing this) is 1.5.

So we use the Oddsmatching software on PA to find a close match (you can totally do this without the PA subscription, but it will take a lot longer).  With odds of 1.65 on Ladbrokes, and 1.67 on the exchange, we would make a loss of £1.62 on the qualifying bet.  Not to worry though, because we will make a profit on the free bet!

We then place the bet on Ladbrokes, and the opposite bet on the exchange site and wait for it to settle.  Ladbrokes will then credit you with a £50 free bet.  This time we want odds that are a bit higher to make a good profit.  Let’s say 5 and 5.1.  With these odds,  the free bet will make £37.62.  Minus the qualifying loss, this makes £36 profit, for about 5 minutes work.

But How Much Can I Make?

So far I have averaged about £100 per week, and could be doing more.  Spending a couple of hours a day can make you twice this, and taking advantage of the slightly riskier offers (e.g. casino bonuses) can earn you even more.  The most I have made from one offer? £185.  That was a good day!

I Want In – What’s Next?!  

As I have mentioned, I use Profit Accumulator to find the offers and for their very handy calculator.  There is nothing to stop you going it alone (although I wouldn’t recommend it, and certainly not as a beginner), and of course there are other similar websites that you could use instead.  Entirely your choice, but if you decide to use Profit Accumulator, maybe you can use my link, and I will make a small amount from it (at no extra cost to you!)  Also, I’ll totally love you forever.

 

 

 

Are There Any Risks?

No.  As long as you check the Terms and Conditions of each offer (this is a quick process once you know what you’re looking for, don’t worry) and follow the instructions on PA carefully.  I have made a couple of silly mistakes, and have made small losses.  Fortunately, nothing major, but still very frustrating when it happens.

Of course there are some offers that are risky, but you don’t have to do this if you don’t want to.  You can pick and choose which offers you take advantage of, that’s the beauty of Matched Betting.

So, there we have it, my very basic guide to to Matched Betting.

And don’t forget, if you have a Quidco account you can get cash back every time you open a new account with a bookie or casino.  I stupidly didn’t do this, and have missed out on more than £100.  (*cries quietly*).   If you use my link to open a Quidco account, you can get £10 (and I will make a little money too – it’s win win).

 

As always, thanks for reading and I hope I will help at least one of you make some extra pennies in 2017.

 

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Lessons From a Four Year Old #2 – Have Fun

Do you have enough fun in your life?

 

When I became a parent, I thought that I would be the one doing the teaching.  I assumed I would teach my children life skills – speaking and dressing themselves – as well as social skills – not killing each other, being kind.  So far mission accomplished. I have four reasonably well-mannered, kind children who make me proud every day.

 

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What I didn’t expect, however, was for them to teach me fun stuff too.  But they do.  Constantly!

Recently, I wrote about how my four year old daughter has shown me how not to have fear.  I have been trying to follow her (albeit inadvertent) advice, with varied results.  Then, lo and behold, another lesson!

 

We were at my son’s Sports Day back in July, and •terrible mother alert• I was bored.  Daughter number two was in her pushchair, and the four year old was roaming free, like a wild animal.

As well as watching my eleven year old trying his hardest to win all the races, I was also half watching daughter number one. Making sure that she didn’t disappear – as children are so good at doing in the millisecond that you take your eyes off them – or injure herself.

While watching her, I realised something rather extraordinary, she wasn’t bored.  She was having a great time!  She was running, and jumping and skipping, and rolling down a hill, then running up it and rolling down again.

 

Meanwhile, boring old me was checking my watch every six seconds, and wishing for the end to come. (The end of Sports Day, not the end of the world – it wasn’t that bad).  As I watched her, I thought, why can’t I have fun like that? Why can’t I be that carefree and joyous?

 

And then newsflash;

 ‘Wait, I can be!’

I know life gets in the way sometimes, and, let’s be fair here, my four year old doesn’t have to worry about paying bills, or whether the strange noise that the car is making means something is wrong (it did, and yes, it was expensive).

 

But really, we should be trying to enjoy our lives.  Who’s to say we can’t skip, and roll down hills as an adult? Just because we have crippling credit card debt, and other worries, doesn’t mean we should let it consume us.

Sometimes, we need to just let it go, and be silly.  So what if other people look at you and think you’re completely insane? They are just jealous that you can do 12 cartwheels in a row.

Laughter is the best medicine.  It relieves stress, and makes us live longer.  What’s not to love?

So sing, dance, watch a funny film, and just laugh.  Go and catch those Pokemon, if that’s what makes you happy.

I speak from experience when I say that a low mood can be a slippery slope.  When I made a conscious effort to climb out of the darkness, I saw a vast improvement in my life.  Yes, the problems are still there, and no, I don’t own a yacht yet, but day to day life is a lot less miserable.

 

I’m sorry for the cliche, but it has to be said: life is short. So please enjoy it!

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