Until last year I had never picked up a self-help book in my life. I thought I could do it all myself, I thought it was weak to ask for help, and I didn’t think there was any merit in meditating and all that ‘hippy stuff’.
Then, in the middle of 2016 I had, what can only be described as, a crisis of confidence. It suddenly dawned on me that I was in my thirties and didn’t have any sort of career path (apparently I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer either – I’ve never had any sort of career path), and although I knew what I wanted to do, I didn’t know how to achieve it.
I wrote a series of self-pitying blog posts – some of which I published if you want a laugh – and generally moped around. I can’t really remember how I came across You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, but I suspect it was some sort of divine intervention. Anyway, I thought it looked interesting and ordered a copy along with a couple of other books that Amazon told me I needed.
And so began my journey of self-discovery (ugh, cheesy I know). I devoured You Are A Badass, finishing it within a couple of days (hey, that’s an achievement with four children who like to inform me of every thought that enters their heads). Jen Sincero’s style of writing won’t be for everyone, but if you like your advice to be straight to the point then you will love it.
You Are A Badass will take you from directionless to directioned (is that even a word? Professor Google says no). For me, the biggest revelation was related to money and work. Growing up, we always had enough, but were far from rich. The feeling I always had, was that ‘people like us’ just were not destined to be rich or successful. Work isn’t meant to be fun, and you just do what it takes to support your family.
…Badass helped me to see that, actually, this is the wrong attitude to have. Just because I came from a working class background, doesn’t mean that my path is pre-determined.
It’s not just about money though, my whole attitude to life was changed after reading this wonderful yellow book. I started to feel motivated and invigorated for the first time, probably, ever. I wanted to get out there and get started on my fabulous new life as soon as I possibly could.
For instance, I never thought I could do a job that I would actually enjoy (ok, this is also linked to money. Maybe I have a one-track mind), but I am starting to believe that it may be a possibility. This is just the tip of the iceberg though, I can’t stress enough how different I felt after reading this book. I know I’m not the only one either; I constantly see …Badass being recommended whenever the topic comes up in Facebook groups and the like.
Among many other life lessons, …Badass also helped to hammer home that other people being ugly (inside) has nothing to do with me. This is a work in progress, as I have the habit of over-analysing every little thing that people say and do around me. However, I have got a LOT better at letting things wash over me, and just living my life, without worrying so much what other people are doing with theirs.
Live in the moment to fully appreciate life, you only get one after all. I certainly don’t want to be on my deathbed worrying about whether the nurses are talking about me behind my back.
“There’s nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of f***- yeah” – Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass
I highly recommend you get on the Badass Train right now. Go buy it here, while I just pop off and work my way through Jen’s recommended reading list. You can thank me later.